The tailgating woman was furious and honked her horn, screaming in frustration as she missed her chance to get through the intersection, dropping her cell phone and makeup.
“I don't reject your Christ. I love your Christ. It's just that so many of you Christians are so unlike your Christ.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
Mat 23:1-7 KJV Then spake Jesus to the multitude, and to his disciples, (2) Saying, The scribes and the Pharisees sit in Moses' seat: (3) All therefore whatsoever they bid you observe, that observe and do; but do not ye after their works: for they say, and do not. (4) For they bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men's shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers. (5) But all their works they do for to be seen of men:
Mat 23:28 KJV Even so ye also outwardly appear righteous unto men, but within ye are full of hypocrisy G5272 and iniquity.
pretense, dissembling, deceit, dishonesty, duplicity, lying,
guile, subterfuge, feigning, shamming, faking, bluff, bluffing,
"he was capable of great dissimulation and hypocrisy"
Gal 2:11-13 KJV But when Peter was come to Antioch, I withstood him to the face, because he was to be blamed. (12) For before that certain came from James, he did eat with the Gentiles: but when they were come, he withdrew and separated himself, fearing them which were of the circumcision. (13) And the other Jews dissembled G4942 [sunupokrinomai (soon-oo-pok-rin'-om-ahee) to act hypocritically] likewise with him; insomuch that Barnabas also was carried away with their dissimulation G5272. [pretense, hypocrisy]
Jas 5:12 KJV But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.G5272
1Jn 3:11-13 KJV For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another. (12) Not as Cain, who was of that wicked one, and slew his brother. And wherefore slew he him? Because his own works were evil, and his brother's righteous. (13) Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you.
There are two elements to the self-righteous equation – what we say and how we say it on the one hand, and how our actions align with what we say on the other.
2Ti 2:24-26 KJV And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, (25) In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth; (26) And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will.
How does one does do that?
1Co 9:19-22 KJV For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more. (20) And unto the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might gain the Jews; to them that are under the law, as under the law, that I might gain them that are under the law; (21) To them that are without law, as without law, (being not without law to God, but under the law to Christ,) that I might gain them that are without law. (22) To the weak became I as weak, that I might gain the weak: I am made all things to all men, that I might by all means save some.
We humble ourselves. We let them know what our feelings were about God and the Bible at first. In humility, we seek common ground. Esteeming others better than ourselves we seek areas in which we are both alike. Find values that we share. Establish respect. We admit our own struggles with trying to live up to the Christian values. Once they sense the sincerity of what we’re saying, they will want to empathize and tend towards talking about their own feelings.
Php 1:9-11 KJV And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; (10) That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincereG1506 and without offence till the day of Christ; (11) Being filled with the fruits of righteousness, which are by Jesus Christ, unto the glory and praise of God.
2Co 4:5-10 KJV For we preach not ourselves, but Christ Jesus the Lord; and ourselves your servants for Jesus' sake. (6) For God, who commanded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts, to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ. (7) But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, [we all are easily broken like a jar made of clay] that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us. (8) We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; (9) Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed; (10) Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.
Don't play at being a Christian. Do not pretend to be a perfect Christian. Live authenticity. Live congruency. Live transparency. A.C.T. When we act, act out of authenticity, congruency, and transparency. We can fake being religious but we can't fake genuine faith because underlying genuine faith is a remarkable humility that admits, I'm just muddling along here trying to do the best I can at figuring God out and following His lead. I may not understand it yet but I will act in faith until I get it.